Tag: miscarriage

  • Things NOT to Say After a Miscarriage

    At least you have other children. At least you can get pregnant. At least it was early. At least you didn’t know the gender. At least you can have more. At least you will see them in heaven. At least it was painless physically. At least you didn’t gain a…

  • Picking Up Porter

    22 days, and 21 sleeps after Porter was gone, we finally were able  to pick up his remains from pathology. I stared out the window on our drive to the hospital in silence. I wondered, “Why didn’t anyone prepare me for this part of loss? How do you navigate picking…

  • How to Help a Grieving Child

    Remember when you found out you lost your baby? Bring up that feeling for a moment. Earth shattering. Can’t breathe. Crumbling to the core. Broken. Heartbroken. Maybe you burst into tears. Maybe you went completely numb. Maybe you were angry at God. Maybe you were in complete denial. Most likely…

  • Dilation and Curettage

    The day after we found out Porter was gone, I met my midwife, Michelle, for coffee to process and talk. I really struggled here. I didn’t want to decide the next step because I didn’t want it to be real. It was advised to me that because of my recent…

  • Aftershock of Miscarriage

    “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.” Psalm 3:5 Can’t breathe. Can’t move.  Can’t talk. My heart is pounding in my ears. Can’t breathe.  Can’t move. Can’t talk. Tears are streaming down my face. “I want to die.”  That is the…

  • Porter Part 3: I Knew From the Beginning

    “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the…