Tag: pregnancy loss

  • Things NOT to Say After a Miscarriage

    At least you have other children. At least you can get pregnant. At least it was early. At least you didn’t know the gender. At least you can have more. At least you will see them in heaven. At least it was painless physically. At least you didn’t gain a…

  • What Is a Loss Token?

    There is a desire and drive to keep someone you love alive after they die. Keeping someone alive is simply doing everything you can to preserve them in daily life. Doing everything you can to keep their memory and essence here with you.   Using their name  Talking about them in…

  • Post D&C

    “Have you picked out a good dream?” Yes.  New reality. New truth. Baby Porter. In my arms. Never letting go. Teeth are chattering. Tongue is throbbing. “Try to relax. Do you want another warmed blanket?” Yes. New reality. New truth. Baby Porter. Gone. Forever. Never letting go. My teeth hurt.…

  • Dilation and Curettage

    The day after we found out Porter was gone, I met my midwife, Michelle, for coffee to process and talk. I really struggled here. I didn’t want to decide the next step because I didn’t want it to be real. It was advised to me that because of my recent…

  • 7 Ways to Share Loss

    7 ways to tell the world your baby died I know the title of this blog post may seem a bit morbid. But to be honest, when we lost Porter this was on my mind and he was more than just a miscarriage to me. He DIED inside my womb…

  • Aftershock of Miscarriage

    “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.” Psalm 3:5 Can’t breathe. Can’t move.  Can’t talk. My heart is pounding in my ears. Can’t breathe.  Can’t move. Can’t talk. Tears are streaming down my face. “I want to die.”  That is the…