Things NOT to Say After a Miscarriage

  1. At least you have other children.
  2. At least you can get pregnant.
  3. At least it was early.
  4. At least you didn’t know the gender.
  5. At least you can have more.
  6. At least you will see them in heaven.
  7. At least it was painless physically.
  8. At least you didn’t gain a ton of weight.
  9. At least you didn’t buy a bunch of baby stuff.
  10. At least you didn’t set up a nursery.
  11. At least you didn’t tell a lot of people.
  12. At least no one can tell you were pregnant.
  13. Think of how other people have it worse than you.
  14. There are people who can’t even have a baby.
  15. Maybe you should adopt.
  16. Maybe you should see this as a sign to be done.
  17. Maybe you are too old.
  18. Maybe they had a chromosomal abnormality.
  19. Maybe its for the best.
  20. Maybe God knew you couldn’t handle a baby now.

Maybe just maybe… I wanted these babies and all the reason people think they are giving to ease the pain are dumb and pointless because nothing can negate the fact that these babies meant so much to me. They were and are wanted.

The end.